Feeling Left Out of a Badminton Group

If you are a long-time reader of my blog, you know how I feel about the teachers at my school. SInce they beginning they have never included me, and haven’t been very welcoming. Even now, after I have proven myself a better player than them they are STILL not at all welcoming or nice to me. (As recently realized by Azhi who didn’t even know the history of them and me, but also picked up the fact they didn’t want to play with us a few months ago.)

I usually don’t care because their level isn’t that high so I don’t want to regularly play with them anyway, but since they are my coworkers there are several competitions a year that I MUST play with them. Like this competition for university teachers. Only one team of teachers is allowed to enter, and as usual they didn’t ask me, so I couldn’t compete. Sigh…..



  1. Phichsuong

    I felt ya. That’s how I started in my club, the only the difference is that I have not choice since there only one badminton club in my school. So these old experiences Chinese men always found an excuse to ignore me since I was a beginners but only two them that was there to teach and coach me. I was about to give up the same way like you, then I told myself that I will win one day (the determination). Why? There another reason to it: There are other beginner women players and they always got turn down by these same people and it pissed me off. So I got train by one guy (he saw my potential) and I learned fast cause of my motivation and passion for badminton. And the guy that coached me told me to be his partner and play mix double with those men. I did not win in the beginning due to my nerves around them, but I gained confidence over time. So now playing with those guy for me is way too easily for me because I know their playing styles, they never change much of the styles. Me, I like to be creative, so make them run cross court and front and back ?? and smash them to dead ??. I always have a long comment, I hope you don’t mind. I love to share my story with you as much as you do too (thank).

    1. Becky (Post author)

      I don’t mind at all! I LOVE hearing your stories. Feel free to write as many long comments as you want. And Yeah! Your experience sounds a lot like mine. I love that you said you got mad when you saw players turn down other women. I TOTALLY get that. It doesn’t happen so much now, but every now and then a guy will turn me down, and I get so mad. Like, if I never played with him because of happenstance, no problem. But if someone suggests we play together and they refuse I also see it as a challenge, and I won’t ever let them win, haha. I keep bothering them until they play with me eventually. Like, I won’t let them turn down a woman without a lot of hassle. So it’s better to just accept it and play a game then have me hunt you down for days and weeks afterwards!


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